Everybody in this world thinks that he or she is perfect and it is everybody else in this world that has a problem. This is a common social behavior which has been found since mankind has populated this world. This social behavior is very difficult to break as we can never think that we are wrong. We can never accept that we have a problem and we always search for somebody to lay the problem on. Psychiatrists all over the world have tried to address this problem but they have not been able to lay their hand for a solution.
However, many a time we are wrong. If we are willing to listen and introspect, we will very easily see where the problem lies. We will realize that the problem lies with oneself and such realization will lead to opening up of the mind and changing of the social behavior.
A short story will carry home the point that is being made.
A man feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss. Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response."
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens." Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?" No response.
So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?" Still there was no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?" Again he gets no response.
So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for dinner?" Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?
Guess what’s for dinner?
"James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!"
Moral of the story: The problem may not be with the other one as we always think, could be very much within us..!
Very few people in this world have been able to grapple with this problem and those select few have self realized. This is a process of self realization which not only puts one in the path of self-improvement but also puts one in the path of spirituality.
Let us walk towards the path of self realization and make this place a better place to live in.